A user’s manual aimed at the female audience:
Advanced Nerd Tweakage
If youâ€™re still reading, then Iâ€™m thinking that your nerd is worth keeping. Even though heâ€™s apt to vanish for hours, has a strange sense of humor, doesnâ€™t like you touching his stuff, and often doesnâ€™t listen when youâ€™re talking directly at him, heâ€™s a keeper. Go figure.
Map the things heâ€™s bad at to the things he loves. You love to travel, but your nerd would prefer to hide in his cave for hours on end chasing The High. You need to convince him of two things. First, you need to convince him that youâ€™re going to do your best to recreate his cave in his new surrounding. Youâ€™re going to create a quiet, dark place here he can orient himself and figure out which way the water flushes down the toilet. Traveling internationally? Carve out three days somewhere quiet at the beginning of the trip. Traveling across the US? How about letting him chill on the bed for a half-day before you drag him out to see the Golden Gate Bridge?
Second, and more importantly, you need to remind him about his insatiable appetite for information. You need to appeal to his deep love of discovering new content and help him understand that there may be no greater content fire hose than waking up in a hotel overlooking the Grand Canal in Venice where you donâ€™t speak a word of Italian.
Needless to say, my wife passed this one on to me.