The Thinking Housewife is revolting against the tyranny of Nice.
J.D. writes, â€œWhat is it that they want?â€
Itâ€™s shockingly simple: They want to be thought of as NICE. By everyone.
Niceness is their highest valueâ€¦ the coin of the realm. Nice people are nice. Not nice people are mean. And they donâ€™t want mean people to think theyâ€™re not nice, either, so itâ€™s a double-bind worldview. Theyâ€™re trapped in the social empire of nice, and there is no escape.
However, there is a prize: everyone thinks the nice person is nice. Not much more, but certainly nice. No one can say anything bad about the nice person, which isnâ€™t a fully human, fully-alive experience, but it is nice.
They donâ€™t want to be thought of as mean, so they follow the nice trends and celebrate all kinds of nice self-congratulation. Itâ€™s a dualistic worldview, brought to them through television, Internet, viral emails, movies, social media, cute JPEGs, et cetera.
The Glowing Box tells them what is nice, and how to think. They imitate, and pass it on.
Thatâ€™s what they want: to be nice, for others to think of them as nice, for others to be nice to others, and the world to be a nice place. They want to be comfortable. People who create discomfort â€” by thinking or encouraging others to think â€” are not nice. Just like their most challenging teachers in their school years, who created a â€œnot nice environmentâ€ that demanded the best of them and othersâ€¦ the highest effort, playing on their growth edge. Standing for something beyond the comfort zone of niceness. That wasnâ€™t nice because some people couldnâ€™t get an A because they wouldnâ€™t think or work hard enough to get it, creating despair. Thatâ€™s not nice. And this view of thinkers â€” those with higher standards for humanity â€” continues to this day. Thinkers are mean, caught up in their heads. Unrepentant thinkers are haters. They have no heart.
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Hat tip to Vanderleun.